Discipling

Once I went to a church event and heard a speaker tell about her family's experience with homeschooling during the time one member had serious health issues. School work had to be temporarily suspended while the family journeyed through this difficult time. I don't remember this woman's exact words, but she said what the children learned during this season of life was more valuable than anything they could have learned from a textbook.

I was thinking about that while my daughters spent many hours in waiting rooms during their father's doctor appointments and medical procedures. On one hand I felt bad for them, and I worried about the school work they were missing. But then I thought, better this than to be far removed from us sitting in a public school classroom. We are a tight family. We need to be together for the good times and also for the hard times. Their school work will get finished. We have all year, even summer to catch up if need be.

It took me many years to realize that school work is secondary to relationship. Academics can slide from time to time, but the daily one-on-one we share can't be shoved aside and taken lightly. A sermon at church brought this idea home to me a little more clearly. It was about John the Baptist and how he made disciples for Jesus Christ. He pointed everyone in Christ's direction. He didn't care about his own life, and in fact said, "He must increase, but I must decrease."

All my interactions with my children must point them to Jesus. "Look at him!" That should be foremost in my mind for every issue, every problem, and every joy. Our girls will walk through the medical troubles with their parents and we will show them how to trust God through it. They will see our prayers, our faith, our victories, and even our failures. Above all, they will see God at work as he comforts us and answers our prayers.

My main job is to disciple my girls to be followers of Jesus. Relationship with him and with me is crucial. But sometimes I need a little help too. I recently bought Training Hearts, Teaching Minds by Starr Meade. This book has daily devotions for passing on our faith to our children. In the introduction the author states, "God calls the church of each generation to 'contend earnestly for the faith which was once for all delivered to the saints'. When our children replace us as contenders for the faith, will they have a clear grasp of the faith they must defend? When they replace us as supporters of the truth, will they know the truth well enought to articulate it clearly and to recognize counterfeits?" Simply, this book is "What do we believe?" and "Why do we believe it?"

We have a rough road ahead crossing treacherous terrain. Isaiah 40:3 says, "A voice is calling, Clear the way for the Lord in the wilderness, make smooth in the desert a highway for our God." Isaiah 41:18 says God will make the wilderness a pool of water. In Isaiah 42:16, God says, "In paths they do not know, I will guide them. I will make darkness into light before them and rugged places into a plain." In all the circumstances of life, we will look at Jesus.